You’ve failed many times, although you may not remember.
Where do your priorities lie?
As Gandhi says, what we do, what our actions are, reflect where our priorities lie. In our society, spending habits in terms of money and time seem to be a good indicator of priorities. If we spend a lot on one thing over another, it’s clearly more important to us. Go take a look at your spending habits:
How much time do you watch TV?
How much is your monthly phone bill?
How often are you checking Facebook, Instagram etc?
How much do you spend on entertainment or eating out at restaurants?
How much do you spend on great nutrition?
Are your priorities all lined up with what you say you want? Or are there multiple things in front of what you say you want?
One of the best things I’ve heard, or maybe I made it up myself is that you are going to spend time and money on your health. It’s inevitable. The key question is whether your are going to be proactive with exercise and nutrition, or reactive with doctors and medication.
There are 168 hours in a week. That is plenty of time to get stuff done whether they are bringing you closer to your goals or further away. So….
Where are you spending that time?
Here’s what you are going to do to find out where your priorities are? Much like a food journal, I want you to keep track of how many hours you are dedicating to everything you do.
- Internet time
- TV time
- Nutrition/Meal prep time
- Exercise time
You can literally add an category you want!
After a week, you’ll get a better picture of what you are doing and where you spend a majority of your time. Then you can see if your actions really line up with what you say you want.
Have you ever seen Batman Begins?
I have. Multiple times. Why? Because the Christopher Nolan trilogy is freakin badass.
Anyway, as I was watching Batman Begins, I noticed a theme and there is an amazing quote in the movie that I think we all need to remember from time to time, because often we look at failure as an end, as being defeated. As, well, failure.
It’s mentioned twice, once by Bruce Wayne’s father & a second time by Alfred.
“So we can learn to pick ourselves up”
Watch a baby learn to walk. What happens? They get up, take a step and boom they’re down. They get up again, get two steps, and down they go. They adapt, they learn, they find a way to get it done. And eventually they’re walking!
The biggest struggle I’ve been seeing is doing a push-up. Maybe its a matter of strength, maybe its a matter of technique, maybe its a matter of learning the motor plan. But you’re not going to give up on it. You’re going to keep at it! You are going to keep doing those negative push-ups, keep doing those pop-ups. Why? Because each time you do them, you learn, each time you collapse, you have an opportunity to pick yourself up, literally, from the ground.
Don’t get frustrated at the day to day. Use every failure as a learning experience meant to make you better.
One of my favorite things to do on my way to work is listen to Eric Thomas, and if you haven’t heard of him go on YouTube right now!!
One of my favorite quotes, and it fits today’s theme, is
“Change comes with sacrifice… When you want to make a change you must be prepared to make a sacrifice of escaping the comfort zone!”
― Israelmore Ayivor, The Great Hand Book of Quotes
For those that have been watching our events list, you’ll be aware that I gave a presentation this weekend at FEI Eclipse alongside very intelligent speakers and fitness professionals. If not, well, I gave a presentation this weekend in NYC on motor learning, coaching and cueing.
All of us at AMP know that I am not the most outspoken person, nor would you describe me as extroverted.
The running joke around AMP is that I don’t talk or use my words often.
If you’ve seen the board in the back the past few weeks, Mike and Adam have been giving me words of the day to say 10 times to get me to say more.
So its not a surprise when I tell you that standing up in front of a conference, albeit 10-15 people is not only nerve racking for me, but it takes me so far outside of my comfort zone that I’m uncomfortable. And that is the sacrifice I have to make in order to change or to make a change.
Not only do I want to make a change for myself, but I want to be a part of a wave of change in the fitness industry itself. I don’t want to be in fear of speaking in front of groups, because ultimately I want to be able to do that, to teach, to educate. Me speaking and presenting information at these events helps educate trainers in a largely uneducated field.
So the quote above really speaks to me. Because I have all these “outside goals” past AMP, I have to change, I have to adapt, I have to be willing to put in effort, I have to sacrifice my own comfort level to be a part of the bigger picture. My comfort level is either staying introverted like you probably see at AMP, but its all hiding behind my keyboard. If you read these emails and blog posts and articles that I write, you see I have no problem with words. But that’s typing, not speaking. It’s very easy for me to write, in fact it comes pretty natural to me. But that can only accomplish my goals only so much.
So what does all this have to do with you?
We all have goals, we all have aspirations, but we all also hide in our comfort zones. How often have you found yourself staying in a comfort zone out of fear of the unknown, out of fear of what could happen? Making a change, whether its attaining life goals or health/fitness goals requires some sort of sacrifice to get out of your comfort zone.
It could be your uncomfortable with that out of breath feeling, or from having to give up control if even only for an hour, or uncomfortable with sweating, or lifting, or even just being uncomfortable with not excelling at something. Maybe your comfort zone is staying with a so-so diet because getting out of it and starting a healthy nutrition plan is foreign and scary.
Change is scary, change is foreign, change requires sacrifice. But if you really want to change, I’m telling you to get out of your comfort zone, because in the end, the results, the feeling of satisfaction will be worth it.